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Ways to Beat the Gay Breakup Blues
So, here you are, reading this with tear-stained
cheeks. Hopefully, you've at least taken a shower and changed your pajamas.
Maybe you've locked yourself in your apartment, only to swear you will never
leave. The lights are off, but you're home every night, alone and wondering
how to 'go on' with life, or even if you dare. You've been dumped, and it
hurts. A lot! Well, now that we have that established, we're here to tell
you that you can get over it.
I know, you're thinking, "HA! It's not that
easy!" However, no matter how much you love him, and no matter how good he
was in bed, there are other men out there. If he didn't love you,
then you have no choice but to get over him. Sitting at home isn't going
to help you, nor is thinking about him and crying when every slow song you've
ever danced to plays on the radio. There is life out there - you just need
to learn to go out and have fun again.
If you are one of the people that need a way
to beat the breakup blues then you will be pleased to know that there are
several things you can do - and none of them involve staying at home and
feeling sorry for yourself.
The best thing you can do (in the beginning)
is call up your friends. Go out with them and have fun. Locking yourself
up and crying will only make you feel worse. Take some time out to enjoy
the dancing and wild entertainment that the local gay scene can provide.
Meet some new men and see what's out there. Don't go out with the intention
to find a replacement, but rather to make some new friends and have fun.
You'll be glad you did, and you will see that things get easier as time moves
on.
Whatever you do, do remember that if you're
lover broke up with him then you need to leave him be. Do not call him; or
visit his house; or email him; or question his friends about him; or write
him sobbing love poems; or drop by his place of business; or….well,
you get the picture. Even if you want him back you still will need to give
him the space he has asked for. If you stop him from moving on, then he will
never consider coming back. However, if he leaves and you give him space
he may realize what he missed. We can't 'miss' something, that isn't really,
truly gone!
Take up a hobby. If you have ever wanted to
learn something interesting, such as tap-dancing or a foreign language, then
now is the time. Learning something, or taking up a hobby, will allow you
to learn something new and envelope the time you would have spent thinking
about him, or trying to drink your woes away.
Consider the good times. You should always attempt
to leave a relationship with a good spirit. Rather than blaming someone,
or thinking of ways to get them back, you should consider what you learned
from your past love. What did you learn from the relationship? Taking something
positive from the relationship will allow you to move on, and when the next
relationship happens you will know not to make the same mistakes, or follow
the same path. Consider him a gift, and be grateful that you were allowed
that gift in your lifetime.
Breakups are never easy, however, if
you are willing to look at the positive side then you are going to have a
much easier time dealing with what has happened. You don't have to move on
if you're not ready, but do try to keep the breakup in a 'reality-based'
perspective. Sometimes things happen for a reason. You just have to find
something to keep you in a place of contentment until you can get over what
has happened to you. Even if that means knowing your past lover is happy
now that you are no longer in a relationship. If you want him to be happy,
and he is, then focus on that. True love is wanting our exes to be happy
- with, or without, us. False love is just a need for someone to love us,
and with this we find we only want our partners to be happy if they are with
us. If you love him it may hurt, but at least you know he's in a better place,
and with a little work soon you will be, too.
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