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How to Let Go After Your Gay or Lesbian
Breakup
Breaking up is hard to do. There is no easy
way to say goodbye to the one you believed you'd be with forever. If it is
meant to be, though, then it is meant to be. It's sometimes best if you remain
friends. Other times remaining friends isn't the wisest choice. Either way
if at all possible, you should try to cut your losses, let them go and give
them back to themselves, and move on with your life.
It can be difficult to move on when you've been
with someone for a long time. Your life is going to change. Even your daily
schedule is most likely going to change, too, since you will be omitting
activities you and your partner did together. Sleeping in bed alone is going
to be hard to get used to if you are used to that warm extra body next to
you. Life can seem hopeless, worthless, and impossible.
This isn't true. You just have to reacquaint
yourself with what life was like without your ex-boyfriend. Depending on
how close you were, and how easy it is for you to deal with your emotions,
this could take days - or it could take weeks or months. The point is to
try not to drag out the relationship and what it 'could have been' any longer
than what is a healthy grieving period. For a great source of healing from
a breakup, read the eBook, How To Get Over
A Break Up.
If you truly loved your boyfriend or girlfriend
- and you simply grew apart - you will feel a sense of loss and you will
grieve, but it won't be as devastating as a breakup that just happened out
of the blue without any forewarning. Hopefully, the following list will help
to ease your pain.
Redecorate to Feel Great
When you cannot seem to get him, or her, out
of your head because everything in your house reminds you of your time together,
then you should consider redecorating. It can be difficult to let go if you're
constantly reminded of the good and bad times you had together. An item you
bought while on vacation, the dining room furniture you picked out together,
or even the bed you once shared can remind you of exactly why you never wanted
to live without him/her.
Not everyone can afford to redecorate their
entire house. However, there are some things you can do to ease the break
up blues. New wallpaper is relatively inexpensive. If you are a budding artist
- or a seasoned professional - you can give new life to each room by painting
your walls. While you probably will not want to get a new bed, new bedding
can give it an entirely different look. You can also remove any items from
the home that are too painful to keep around.
Just Let Go of the Clothes
On the same level you will probably have some
of his or her old clothes if they didn't take everything. It's common for
someone who lived in a house for years to forget or lose something - and
you may come across the item at a later date. If your ex doesn't want the
things that have left behind you may just want to throw them away, or donate
them (if clothes) to the Salvation Army - or any other organization who would
benefit from such a donation. DO NOT hold on to the clothes. DO NOT wear
them at night in remembrance of your ex. This is the fastest way to become
obsessed with what you once had. In truth, if you dwell on your ex you may
not only appear pathetic, but you may border on becoming a stalker. This
may seem harsh, but it's best to be truthful - sugarcoating the truth during
your breakup, or denying the breakup itself, is only going to hinder the
healing process.
Socialize to Stay Alive
You may not want to be out around other people
after your break up but you should try and get back out as soon as you can.
Socializing doesn't mean you have to have another relationship immediately...
it also doesn't mean you have any obligation to anyone other than yourself.
Call up your friends and go out to the club. Go to the coffee house and enjoy
a good intellectual conversation. Your options are limitless on where you
want to go. And, for the first time in maybe a long time, you're free to
go where you want, when you want, and without having to answer to anyone
about what you do, or where you've been.
Wherever you end up going you can have an easier
time keeping your mind off of your ex if you're distracted. Sitting around
and reflecting on the past - and playing should-of, could-of, would-of -
only leads you down the path of self-destruction. You will start beating
yourself up for something that probably wasn't even your fault, and, in the
end that serves no purpose other than leading you down the road to more
heartbreak.
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